A lot of women have either identified with my lifelong hair problems or reported the opposite type. As to spelling: Is it blonde or blond? "The word comes to English from French, where it has masculine and feminine forms. As an English noun, it kept those two forms; thus, a blond is a fair-haired male, and a blonde is a fair-haired female. When you're using the word as an adjective, 'blond' is the more common spelling and can be used for males or females; however, "blonde" can also be used to describe a woman or girl with fair hair." Mignon Fogarty, Grammar Girl.
As for hair problems generally, I was delighted to see 2020's Oscar winner in the short video category, HAIR LOVE, now viewable online free at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNw8V_Fkw28. Makes my problems with straight hair seem minor, and never once did my father try to wrestle with my hair.